Friendship is a pretty full-time occupation/Truman Capotem
Prepared by Rev. Deborah Thomas/2016
This teaching is inspired by my friend, Rev. Clarence Thomas Jr. Because our relationship is forever evolving, forever being tested and forever growing, I can say with every degree of certainty that he is my friend.
A husband and wife, a girlfriend or boyfriend, or a mentor/mentee, they are all examples of friendship relationships. They are all worthy of tender loving care.
Lesson on Friendship
A Friend is a person known well to another and regarded with liking, affection, and loyalty
Question: "What is true friendship according to the Bible?"
Answer: The Lord Jesus Christ gave us the definition of a true friend: "Greater love has no one than this that he lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command. I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master's business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you" (John 15:13-15). Jesus is the pure example of a true friend, for He laid down His life for His "friends." What is more, anyone may become His friend by trusting in Him as his personal savior, being born again and receiving new life in Him.
There is an example of true friendship between David and Saul's son Jonathan, who, in spite of his father Saul's pursuit of David and attempts to kill him, stood by his friend. You will find that story in 1 Samuel chapter 18 through chapter 20. Some pertinent passages are 1 Samuel 18:1-4; 19: 4-7; 20:11-17, 41-42.
Proverbs is another good source of wisdom regarding friends. "A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity" (Proverbs 17:17). "A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother" (Proverbs 18:24). The issue here is that in order have a friend, one must be a friend. "Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses" (Proverbs 27:6). "As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another" (Proverbs 27:17).
The principle of friendship is also found in Amos. "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?" (Amos 3:3 KJV). Friends are of like mind. The truth that comes from all of this is a friendship is a relationship that is entered into by individuals, and it is only as good or as close as those individuals choose to make it. Someone has said that if you can count your true friends on the fingers of one hand, you are blessed. A friend is one whom you can be yourself with and never fear that he or she will judge you. A friend is someone that you can confide in with complete trust. A friend is someone you respect and that respects you, not based upon worthiness but based upon a likeness of mind.
Finally, the real definition of a true friend comes from the Apostle Paul: "For scarcely for a righteous man will one die; yet perhaps for a good man someone would even dare to die. But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us" (Romans 5:7-8). "Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends" (John 15:13). Now, that is true friendship!
Makes Time/ Recent research proves that ignoring friendship not only diminishes your quality of life but could also be a health hazard., Close friendships act as an ounce of prevention, boosts the immune system and reduces illness like colds, flu and heart disease.
Cares deeply/ The word care comes from the Germanic karo, which originally meant sad. It alludes to the fact that a caring person feels sad when you feel sad. In other words, care equals compassion (Jesus had compassion on us), the compassion that allows one to enter into the others joy or pain and stand with them. Care says, “Whatever happens to you, happens to me.”
Provides Space/ A wise person once said, “We need space for the companion of solitude, but even more need a good friend. After all, it is this vey space and separation provided by a friend that draws us back to a full appreciation of our friendship.
Speaks the Truth/ As painful as the truth might be, a good friend will speak truth. Understand, this does not mean they have a license to insult, offend, and be hurtful. The Bible tells us to speak the truth in love. A friend accomplishes this by having and displaying respect. Good friends benefit from knowing the truth. They deserve to know that they are hurting someone’s feelings, being too aggressive, or too anything that harms the other. When these things are not done the friendship suffers.
Do not use a hatchet to remove a fly from a friend’s forehead
Forgives Faults/ Your friend is the one who knows all about you, and still likes you.
Each one helps the other, saying to one another, take courage
Says a Prayer/ Prayer moves friendship into the deepest and highest position of the human spirit. Prayer is positioned at the core of all human goodness and godliness. When we pray, God graciously shows us who we need to become and who our friends will become and how they will respond to the friendship guided by God through prayer.